As we go through our life, we pick up certain mental attitudes, or programs, that have helped us cope with certain situations we’ve encountered.
They worked at the time, and now they could still be helping you or could actually be holding you back.
Everybody wants to be successful in their life. I assume, since you’re reading this, you would like to have a successful Avon business.
But why is it that only a handful of Representatives are extremely successful while the rest of us struggle?
A lot of this comes from those beliefs in our minds, and the habits we’ve developed.
Are you aware that you can make your mind work for you, instead of having it fight you every step of the way?
Success is not easy to achieve. In order to achieve it, you need to take ordinary and make it extraordinary, and that can be tough to do. But it’s not impossible.
If you look back on your life, you’ll see that in many cases, it’s what’s in your own mind that’s held you back. It wasn’t anyone else that stopped you.
So let’s look at 3 Mental Upgrades that can program you for Success!
1. Replace criticism with compliments.
It’s human nature to see the things that are wrong. It’s built into our DNA. Our survival instincts make it crucial to see where the danger lies. And although this is great for our survival, it’s not so great with our relationships.
As we go throughout our day, we typically receive more negative comments than positive ones. And when people lead with what’s wrong, it can make others feel as though they’re being attacked – even though that’s not the intention.
To overcome this issue, when the impulse to criticize someone important in your life arises, instead of actually saying something, turn it into a trigger to find an authentic compliment.
This is HUGE for two reasons:
You get what you focus on. If you dwell on negative thoughts, your relationship will be tinged with negative associations. If, instead, you work to see the positive elements of the other person’s behavior, you will reinforce those ideas.
By externalizing your authentic feelings of appreciation, communication will be much easier, and the people who are most important to you will know exactly what you value in them. And by focusing on the positive, you will feel better yourself.
When you focus on speaking positively to others, you’ll be amazed by how much their defenses lower and their self-esteem builds. Your communication will be stronger, and you’ll be able to solve whatever needs to be solved.
2. Use the pressure to perform as a reminder that all of life is really just practice.
We all have moments where the pressure is on. A little pressure can improve our performance, but too much pressure and our performance begins to decrease.
When the stakes are at their highest, it can make all the difference if we reframe the situation and see it as practice rather then performance.
By choosing to see it as practice, the pressure becomes an opportunity rather than a test.
You do the best you can. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but it does need to be your best.
When you find yourself under pressure, remember that every aspect of your life is just practice. It’s just moving you to the next moment in your life.
Whether you’re starting a business, raising kids, or establishing a morning routine, you’re in the process of learning. We’re always learning – every day of our life.
No one moment is actually the finish line. Instead, every moment is an opportunity to grow and improve yourself. This will help you transform a moment of panic into one of empowerment.
3. Substitute feelings of insecurity with the excitement of learning new skills.
We all suck at something. Nobody is perfect, or the best in the world.
You might have someone who works with you or near you who is better than you are a something. It might even make you feel insecure about your abilities.
Maybe it’s another Avon Representative, or a family member, or a neighbor, but chances are there’s someone out there who seems to do effortlessly what takes you a tremendous amount of effort just to get lesser results.
All of us have insecurities. That’s not unusual. And many times, it’s just because we are not perfect.
The next time insecurity rears it’s ugly head, instead of beating yourself up, use that very feeling to tack on the word, “yet.” That word will make all the difference in your life.
Once you realize that you can get good at anything that you’re willing to put the time and effort into, insecurity loses its power.
By remembering that you’re simply not good enough at something yet, you remember that you’re in control. You can decide to get good whenever you want.
The key to making this work for you is to know that you can acquire any skill you set your mind to. So don’t focus on what you’re not good at today. Instead, focus on what you need to do to get good at becoming a master of that skill you want.
This moves your mind from that self-defeating loop of not being good enough to the empowered mindset of being a learner.
So changing your mindset and your long-ingrained beliefs isn’t as easy as downloading the newest driver for your computer, but it’s not too difficult.
The key is repetition. As you do things over and over in a certain way, it starts to build new neuro-pathways in your brain.
You will find that you will make some progress only to slip back again. Don’t worry. Stick to it, keep working on these ideas, and eventually it will create a mental habit.
You might never be able to totally silence the negative voices or counterproductive impulses in your head, but with enough practice their mere presence will remind you to run your new algorithms.
Over time you will find the time gap between those thoughts that don’t benefit you and the running of your new programmed thoughts will get so short that you will know that you’re making huge progress towards your goals.
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