How To Be More Charismatic
Some of us are naturally more outgoing than others. Richard is Mr. Personality, while I tend to stand back in social situations.
Do you think charisma can be learned? Many people believe that it’s something some people are born with.
I agree that there are some people who have more of this natural ability, there are techniques we can use to become more charismatic.
1 – Tap Into People’s Pain Points
If you have a way of helping others solve a problem, they will be drawn to you.
Sometimes, you don’t even need to solve their problems. It can be a matter of simply listening.
Listening goes a long way when people are dealing with situations. It’s a skill that many people don’t naturally possess but it is something we can learn.
We become the solver of a problem. A friend that helps someone out of a jam. A helper. The go-to guy.
And if that customer or one of their friends or family members ever experiences a similar pain, guess who they’ll contact?
2 – Praise People Who Deserve It
People can never get too much positive reinforcement.
It’s easy to take for granted the things that people do for us every day; particularly those closest to us.
Praise is a wonderful way to let people know that you appreciate them and that you care about what they do.
In a world where the news is often bad and people are often unkind or even downright cruel, be a ray of sunshine. Start by praising the people in your life and then sprinkle that stuff everywhere you go!
3 – Be Confident
People who are charismatic are confident, and others notice this.
By learning to be more confident, you set up the environment for others to follow you.
Being confident is not about bragging. It’s not what you say at all. It’s about how you see yourself and how you carry yourself. And then, as a result, how you’re being perceived by others.
Learn about the situations you are facing. Try to gather facts before jumping to conclusions. By planning ahead, you will be more comfortable in a situation and you will be more confident.
Sometimes you just have to “fake it until you make it.” First you act confident, and then you actually start to believe you can be confident, and soon you are confident.
4 – Be Boldly Self Aware
Charismatic leaders must possess strong self-awareness.
Understand your strengths and where you can make an impact. If you truly care about others and work to help them find success, people will see that you are genuine. This will go far in increasing your charisma.
But then, you must be brave enough to make that impact.
5 – Set An Example For Others
When you set an example, it will be difficult for others not to take notice.
Leaders are leaders because of what they do, not because of a position they hold, or the title printed on their business cards. People watch what you did rather than what you say.
They will see that you are a person of your word.
You take away any excuses other people might have because you are showing that whatever it is you are doing, can be done.
Setting an example means taking the risk, doing what is necessary, doing what no one else is doing. It means going first.
6 – Maintain A Good Sense Of Humor
Humor creates an upbeat atmosphere that encourages interaction, brainstorming of new ideas, and a feeling that there are few risks in thinking outside the box.
It also stands to reason that if you’re in a more jovial atmosphere, you’ll have more passion for what you do. Your work ethic will increase, and your enthusiasm will likely be contagious.
It’s a win-win for you and the people around you.
Here are some actions you can take as you work to become more charismatic:
Set out to praise at least two people every day –
Praise is one of the most powerful things a leader can offer their team.
Sincere praise is difficult to overdo for most people. Set yourself a goal to praise at least two people every day.
That might sound like a lot of work. And you will need to actively pursue that goal until it becomes a habit.
But once you start getting into a routine, you will see that it pays off in the end.
Work to listen more than talk –
While having a discussion with someone, work to keep the focus on that person and get them talking.
If you are asked a question, answer it and then turn the conversation back to them
By developing your listening skills, you will increase your charisma significantly.
When we are mature and confident enough to set aside our own agenda long enough to get into the hearts and minds of those important to us, we not only get to solutions quicker, but we offer them our best selves.
Give without expecting anything in return –
It goes without saying that you should always be looking for ways to provide others with value.
When you’re giving people something you know they will need and enjoy, it’s because you’re building up a relationship that could someday mean something, right?
All relationships need to be a two way street to be functional. But really, before any of that happens: you need to give with zero expectation of return.
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By Lynn Huber
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